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gingerpale



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PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 12:46 am    Post subject: Dinner Conversation Reply with quote

This article, "How to Talk to Boring Relatives at Dinner", caught my eye--
http://www.chow.com/stories/10771

it gives a few (IMO) concrete & serviceable ways to draw people into a talking group. I'm pretty sure no one who posts here would have any trouble holding forth Wink but in the coming celebrations you might come across a shy (or insufferable) speaker.

I respond well to "..hey hey good lookin' what ya got cookin'..?" Rolling Eyes

(Woody Guthrie? Hank Williams?)
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Griffin



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PostPosted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 5:50 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't know about boring relatives, but I definitely have a tactless unthinking nit of a relative. I dealt with the dinner conversation problem with him by not having dinner any more where I know he's going to be.

Otherwise I love dinner guests with contrary views as it gives a chance for non-offensive wit to hit the fan... as it were! When mum was alive, dinner conversations at our table were filled with fast, witty banter much of it from my brother and I being surreal and my sister and brother being sharp.

Now meals are usually spent on our own, which is ok by me. It's not the same without mum anyway.
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PostPosted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 6:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, the article wasn't so much about people with contrary views, but how to talk with those without views--or no skills to articulate them.
Griffin...a "tactless unthinking nit" could not possibly share your blood!
Surely an ill-considered hasty marriage, or adoption, or a mix-up at the hospital plays a part..
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 11:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Griffin...a "tactless unthinking nit" could not possibly share your blood!


Nope, fortunately not. He's a sort of cousin in law. My cousin's husband. It's annoying because I like her and the kids, it's just him I can't bear.

I find that if you talk to someone enough they do have views on something or other. The not being able to articulate them might be a problem, but then humour usually works.
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PostPosted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 11:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

One time I was on a date in an Italian restaurant and one of those awful pauses happened, which are more awkward when there are only two of you. So I helpfully filled the gap by saying "You know, apparently eating asparagus makes some peoples pee smell, but doesn't have the same effect on others" - as he ate his asparagus started. Smooth!

Fortunately in my family we don't have the problem of having nothing to say - rather that everyone has too much to say, ususally causing an argument! But Griffin, your cousin-in-law sounds like a bundle of laughs...
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PostPosted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 11:46 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

...and what did you talk about on your second date??...
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PostPosted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 9:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Nicki,

He's one of those people that thinks he's funny... with no visible evidence to back that up. People around him try their best to chuckle just to humour him. When he'd been invited to our home once - just after I'd got my MA in Museum Studies, he said, 'Oh good, now you're qualified to work at MacDonalds.' Amazingly I let him live.

But we as a family usually talked about politics, language theory (especially mum and me), literature, art - the lot! As you say, it usually led to arguments... or quick-shooting from the lip! A lot of jokes and wit flying around.

Now mum's not around that just doesn't happen any more. The family fractured so there's really only me and dad to talk and he's not that bothered with such things.

Fortunately I have good friends to talk about such things!
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PostPosted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 5:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

and that is why we are here dear Griffin--that is why we are here.
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PostPosted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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PostPosted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 1:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

... and that's why my friends are my second family too! Wit, wisdom and humour... oh and also they are good at stuff!
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